well I have three children 16, 14 and 7. I am sepertaed from the older twos father when they were just babies thenmet a lovely man whom i had my son with. He is a lovely man and will do anything for my children but he looses his temper and gets so cross. We have tried counselling etc but he gets so angry and I hate it. I even have to remind him how to treat my son ehen he has him on sunday.
Well in the morning it is my birthday and he has bought me laods of presents from the body shop, chocolates from thorntons and booked my hair for me... this is just not wahat I want as the children think he is wonderful.
Well to cut a long story short I met a lovely man, he has hardly any money but has got full time work after Christmas guaranteed. His wife died when his son was 3 6 years agao. I am not just his lover but his best friend and we talk about anything and mean anything. I love him to bits and he has bought me a ring for my birthday and gave it to me. I have been with him 8 months now and know i want to spend my life with him as so happy to be with himk. He makes me laugh and he tries so hard with the children. He is only down the next st and although we live so close if i see him more than twice a week at night my eldest two daughters go mad and complain. I am nver allowed to stay over at his house evern though my eldest daughter is nearly 17. He runs my eldest to school for me every morning at 7.45 and she does not appreciate anything.
When i moved nto my new house we only could afford three bedrooms so i gave up my bedroom just so the girls could have room. My daughters probaly hae been spoilt and my fault and they have no respect at all for me or him. Tonight I am sat here crying and just rung my new man up to say it is over as they will not allow me to be happy.. just what can I do. The girls have told me that i ahve to go to my ex's at christmas and play happy families if i like it or not which i have so agreed to but not happy at the thought of my new man sat alone with his son.
My littl boy has adjusted very well and he loves my new man although we have done things slow. My new man has time for him and plays with him and makes him laugh too. His dad picked him up from school and he just wanted me and cried though.
I just do not know what to do or where to turn. Is it selfish of me to want happiness or would you in this situation put your children first something I have always done.
please elp me as would really appreciate any answers at all you may have.
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babyalfie · 13/11/2007 22:01
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