Lot of background to this post, which I won't go into. Suffice it to say we are under a lot of pressure as a couple since ex's DP decided to go abroad to work and 'leave' the DSC with us.
Their teenage behaviour causes us a lot of stress, and with an alternate week with them we were just about able to recover some equilibrium. Now they stay with us full time, originally I thought ex's DP would be home every other weekend for three nights but it turns out it will be two nights and it will be whenever the ex decides to come home and with a day or twos notice.
So trying to arrange our own life is difficult, and we're at odds a lot of the time over behaviour as ex's DP prefers to behave like a teenager too.
DP to be fair just want what's best for the kids, which we both do just I don't think they should be jerked about so much. And confrontation with the ex achieves nothing
I know I shouldn't have checked, but because plans this weekend changed at the last minute and DP seemed very evasive about telling the ex this wasn't good enough I peeked at their phone.
What I found was a text that included amongst the usual feeble excuses 'I still love you very much and I hope etc etc' the hope being something that is never going to happen.
There's no reply from DP to say this is an inappropriate form of communication in relation to the kids.
We've had numerous arguments over the years about the perceived relationship DP's ex seems to think they have, I'm always told theres nothing DP can do about it.
I am in no doubt that this is inappropriate, question is do I just have to live with it because I spied, or do I come clean and admit I spied?
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HesNotAMessiah · 26/11/2016 20:40
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