Hi I'm new to this and would appreciate yr thoughts . I am going to be utterly honest but please be kind in your replies as ive never told my partner how I really feel for fear of hurting him . My decision is made to protect myself I think .
I've been a single mum if two for ten years , utterly no support at all yet hv own home and hv completed a degree , so I guess a success . My partner has three children 21, 17 and 14 ,flowing his divorce he has lived with his sister and not really got his own home due to paying marge marriage debts off . His ex wife is very angry he doesn't hv his own home and wants to get rid of the kids at all times ( she has a new partner and moved all the kids out of school across counties to become with him so they hv no friends at all and are hving to start again totally !
The dilemma is , I love my partner very much we want to live together and nearly bought a house ( me selling mine ) most recently but I've pulled out ! The reasons being , his middle son is so miserable , mopes about with dropped shoulders , makes digs at his brothers all the time , hasn't got a job and is generally utterly negative to be around . This is causing me great problems as he's very much like my ex husband and to be honest seeing him makes me anxious so moving my home to live with him is something ive wrestled with . I made the section this week to pull out but a very sad as I would love to live with my partner but am worried to give up my home and may end up really unhappy ( sorry I feel selfish here) . What would you hv done? X
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Molly333 · 06/11/2016 05:08
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