My oh was instructed to pay over the odds maintenance to his ex during the divorce to keep her sweet. It didn't work and she took him to the cleaners - he walked away with nothing.
He has been paying this each month for the past year or so. She says it's not enough, but it's a third of his low earner salary!! In addition to her making other demands on what he pays for, which he does, we just cannot afford to live on what is left after the maintenance - especially as we have them 50/50 so obviously need to provide for them when they are in our care.
I've told my oh that he really needs to speak to his ex as we are financially struggling. We can afford to eat but money is tight. We can't afford treats/luxuries/holidays. Whilst it's not really relevant, she is a high income earner.
I know if he broaches the subject it will turn soar. She will no doubt threaten to stop the kids coming, bad mouth him to everyone she knows, but we just can't sustain this amount.
So I'm wondering is going through the csa a better option? And then he says in addition to that he will contribute towards 'joint' extras?
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Is it better to go through CSA or private?
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Whitechester · 28/10/2016 11:27
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