A bit of background: DSD is soon to be 16, she's had a phone contract for two years which has resulted in major conflict with her, all related to her online activity and her mum refusing to co-parent.
About a year ago, DSD was posting some very suggestive imagery on Instagram, pouty, cleavage showing etc, on a public profile which we told her to lock to private. She was 14 at the time. Her mum told us if DH and I had a problem, we'd have to discuss it with her. DSD of course was having none of it from DP and her mum refused to enforce it as it gave her good point scoring opportunities against DP.
This culminated in a heated discussion after parents evening which was the only opportunity for DP to get the two of them together to talk and enforce DSD's online safety. ExW said in front of DSD that DP was being a bully and to ignore him. We then didn't see DSD for 6 months.
Since then, DSD has continued to do whatever the F she wants online and we have to pick our battles extremely carefully.
Her mobile phone contract has now come up for renewal and of course she wants to upgrade her phone. We responded with "OK, that's fine, as long as your mother takes the contract this time" Our theory on that is that if she has the contract, she can take the responsibility for the next two year.
ExW has now sent a message via DSD saying she "doesn't want to" take the contract in her name. I've did to DSD that her mum needs to pick up the phone and have a chat with DSD's dad about it as I'm sick of The children being used by their mum as pawns to bully.
DSD has said "she won't do that" so now we're at loggerheads and DSD is upset.
Baring in mind that we're the non resident parents, and we met years after DP divorced so I'm not a factor here, WWYD? I refuse to back down on this and DP feels the same.
Is there a solid reason why the RP should be on the phone contract?
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Dollyparton3 · 19/09/2016 08:33
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