My DH has 3 children in their 20s, he is 15 years older than me, so I am in my 30s. He and his XW had a rather dramatic split, and with hindsight I should have waited longer before getting together with him. We've been together for 5 years, married for 3.
I have not met 2 of his DC, these two still live with mum, and DH goes over to see them once a week. I have missed his other child's marriage, amongst various family things, to encourage them to all get together.
This year his mum has a round number birthday, and a surprise weekend away has been arranged including aunts and all the grandchildren. I'm not going because it's important that all the grandchildren go. His XW is also going as she's known MIL for 30 years.
I have paid for it from my (our - but mine originally ) savings and I am still owed over £400. I have put my foot down finally when DH has been telling relatives that "Box is not coming just in case there's any unpleasantness" - I think I deserve to have it told how it is - I am not coming because 2 of the GC will otherwise refuse.
I don't know how else to handle this - was this a reasonable line in the sand to draw?
Is it usual for DH to mostly see his DC at his XW house? Even the one that's moved out that I do have a good relationship with probably sees him more at her mum's than hers or ours. I want him to have a good relationship with his children - but I guess I am feeling invisible.
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BoxofSnails · 18/09/2016 13:23
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