Hi
I am hoping for some advice or help as I am desperate.
I met up with my now husband in 2013 and we brought a house together in 2014 and married in March this year. We already knew each other through our sons who were friends for about 8 years.
He has two sons and so do I. My two boys live with me and they are 15 and 7.
His two sons are 15 and 19 and they lived with their mum.
To cut a long story short when we had been living together for 6 months his eldest son asked to come and live with us. My stomach sank as soon as he asked as I did not enjoy him coming for the weekend let alone living with us but I knew we could not say no. It was easier for him to get to college and his relationship with his mum had broken down completely. He hated her.
This was 19 months ago and I have never got used to him living with us. He is selfish beyond belief and hates me asking him to do things. He is into weightlifting and wants a certain diet eating certain things at certain times depending on the time of year when he is bulking his weight!
He has to be asked over and over to do the most basic things and we ask him to do nothing around the house etc.....
He has started a job and earns a decent wage.
Things have finally caught up with me and my precious husband and my relationship is now suffering as I don't feel comfortable in my own home and never have since his son moved in. It is spoiling such a special relationship and now marriage.
I don't want his son here anymore and am on the verge of asking his son to leave.
He made it clear about 5 months ago he is living here as it is convenient for his precious gym and college and now work.
I don't agree with him eating separate things to us as I work nearly full time and am not going to be cooking separate meals for everyone every night, if he gets separate things my own children start asking for separate things.
It is a nightmare and if things carry on as they are it will break my marriage up.
We do not get on, he has issues with me and has always had issues with female authority.
I heard his mother asking him 'how are things at home' the other night and I just lost it with my husband saying he can get out of this house if he is bad mouthing his living arrangements here and it is not convenient anymore for him to be here.
He is 19, earning a decent wage for his age and I want to say off you go and go back to your mums or find somewhere else to live.
My husband is the kindest sweetest man and such a caring dad that he would never ask his son to leave.
I have anxiety and stress which is now affecting my health.
I have no idea what to do.
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