I have 3 DC so obviously my money has to stretch to provide for all three. XH is financially incompetent so I don't receive any child maintenance currently and he never has money to do nice things with them/never buy them things etc. (although managed to find money to go out all the time and go on trips/holidays with whichever woman he is currently dating but that's another issue). I have a tiny family and we're not that close so there's not loads of presents etc.
DSC on the other hand is an only child and both his parents work full time, plus he has a childless SD so money isn't an issue for them. There is also a huge extended family who are really good at buying gifts for one another and there are very wealthy grandparents too. There are also multiple hobbies paid for which I just can't afford on my own.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not that materialistic and I'm trying to raise my DC not to constantly want 'things' and to value the important things in life but I think that's a hard lesson for kids in general. Despite the fact that DSC gets a lot of nice things it's more the disparity in opportunity that bothers me.
DSC comes on all our family holidays (nothing extravagant, usually in the uk) and any day trips we go on. But additionally is taken on multiple expensive holidays and day trips with his other step/parent.
It really bothers me and highlights just how disadvantaged my DC are by having such a selfish father. The kids are a bit young yet to really start noticing (although we have had some showing off) but I just know it will become an issue at some point. So how do you handle this and should DP and I be working to create more equality or should we continue as we are?
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YellowBricks · 21/08/2016 20:03
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