I didn't know where to post this but thought I can't be the only step parent who has this issue.
Dsc aged 17 and 13 are here for the holidays, DP and i also have a 15 month old son together and I'm 12 weeks pregnant.
We both work but money is tight, we get by and all the kids get whatever they need, bills are paid and we pay our rent but there's not much money for expensive treats, we have the occasional takeaway, can afford the odd trip to the cinema/swimming etc so in my opinion life isn't that bad but everytime dsc are here DP seems to forget that there's no such thing as a money tree and spends a fortune on anything the dsc want.
To make things worse he is currently in the process of changing careers and going self employed so money is tighter than usual but so far in the last week he has taken them to the cinema, taken them out for lunch 3 times, given them £20 each to spend at the arcades and promised them a takeaway on Friday.
He has taken all 3 kids out as I'm not feeling great and just phoned to ask if I wanted lunch bought back as they are having subway. In the grand scheme of things a subway is not going to break the bank but it has tipped me over the edge and I'm now in tears worrying about how we are going to pay the bills since he has spent the money meant for the gas/electric and water. We have plenty of food in the house so there was no need to eat out. He was supposed to be back at 12 for 15 month old to have a nap (he's routine is all over the place because of dsc being here and it's affecting his nighttime sleep which is why I feel ill) so it's not like he's keeping them out to give me a break, I could hear tired toddler crying in the background.
I don't know what I want people to say I just needed to rant because nothing I say to him seems to get through
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smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 02/08/2016 13:20
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