I have 4 month old with partner
He has 4 year old with ex
They broke up when she was 6 months, were on and off for a while then completely cut off relationship and made it only about SD
however she walked all over him, she had him take her only when she felt like it, threatened not seeing her for Christmas because he has new gf(not me previous) had him take SD on her days of so she could do things that she wanted, never gave clothes he always had to buy, yet asked for matinence money plus private nursery money over £200 even though he had her 3/4 nights a week.
Once I came into the picture I learnt he despised ex and I told him not to say anything bad about the mother of his child etc (I grew up with parents at each other throats) but I quickly learned she was a bitch after I fell pregnant and had ectopic scare and she basically laughed at it and said I was taking BF away from daughter (I was hospitalised)
I had a very difficult pregnancy and me and BF tried hard to stay south, however my mother was relocating north offered us a place to live (with her, huge house because company bonus) and to help with baby. BF wanted to go to get away from ex as he knew he was under her thumb and knowing he wouldn't see SD as much was happy to build a new family and in long run would benefit her ( way cheaper to try and get a house than where we lived)
Ex went berserk and even tried to convince him to get back with her but BF ignored and arranged every other weekend where he drives down south to see SD. We have done this every other weekend since October last year ( special arrangement for Xmas) bar the weekend I gave birth because I just could travel and this weekend just gone because he just can't afford it. Ex however now is saying he won't get to see SD again because he's 'inconsistent' and doesn't bother calling, etc and he is a failure
Now recently SD is becoming a bit bitchy and bratty, she's ex only child and is spoilt rotten, any tantrum she throws she gets what she wants, she bites screams kicks and mum gives her what she wants. She even kicked me in stomach (on purpose) at 7 months pregnant just before being dropped to ex, and ex cuddled and kissed her because she was crying and told BF to leave as he was upsetting her. She's rude and unappreciative because of ex raising her, and I have no problem with ex raising her child her way, but I'm not allowing myself and BF to have accept behaviour because of treatment with ex.
AIBU to say to support BF to cut off ex? He hates her (I mean literally hates) he now can't stand SD because of way she's being raised (not that he doesn't love her of course) he can't afford journeying plus doesn't have time too, and all in all he has just given up, and doesn't want to be 3 hours away and still under exs thumb. After weekends down south hes stressed out upset and annoyed and I'm agreeing with him just not having anything to do with it anymore. What should happen?
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Maria1243 · 24/07/2016 22:27
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