I identified myself as the psuedo stepmom. My boyfriend and I live together, and his 5 year old son lives with us part time. I have taken on the mother role when he is with us (cooking dinners, helping with bedtime, making his lunch every now and then, etc). I love both my BF and his son immensely...but it's really hard emotionally. One, I want to be a mom more than anything in the world. My BF doesn't seem to understand and accuses me of wanting to rush things, etc. He doesn't seem to understand also that when we are all together (at the park, doing fun things, etc), I feel like I would if I were babysitting (more or less). I'm having fun, the kid is cute...but I don't have that connection feeling. My BF blames my jealousy (yes, I am jealous...won't lie. I want a kid and I'm jealous he has one with someone else not me); but, it's not. I just don't have "that" connection like they do.
It hit hard this Mother's Day. I wasn't really appreciated...it's starting to weigh on me a bit. I cook, clean, work, etc...and the day came and went as if nothing. Now, to be fair, he did buy my a gift and I was very thankful for that (seriously, so sweet), but I feel (especially lately) very underappreciated and that my role is undervalued.
Am I over-reacting? Is this all my jealousy? Am I wrong to feel this way?
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rrr6 · 09/05/2016 19:08
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