I have 2 of my own children 10 and soon to be 13. I now have 2 step daughters 10 and 12. We all live together and we do have lots of fun together, holidays days out, meals out etc. But I find it hard dealing with their mum and the older 2 girls constantly fall out, they are both as bad as each other really but it causes problems between me and my dp we both sometimes become defensive over our own which is normal but I felt really let down last night when I was trying to discuss an bitching issue with my dsd I was doing in calmly and explained my dd could be over sensitive sometimes but also it wasn't nice she was whispering in other girls ears about my dd and causing tension in the house, she rolled her eyes at me a couple of times I asked her not to and dp stepped in told me to stop , I said well I'm sorry but u tell mine off if they do it to u , he then said well I don't think she's done much tbh sounds like it's all in your dd head. I just looked at him and stormed out. This isn't the first time either.
I have had to take so much from their mum his ex, she has called me names for 'looking' at her the wrong way! She has sent texts to say her dd looks like a gypo when we've had them , she obviously heard about some of the rows between the 2 older girls and when was in the house once when picking up her dd she left 'fuck u' notes in my dd room. She's done much more but would take too long to go into everything . There is now a bit of a custody battle as she has suddenly decided she wants her younger dd with her after 8 years of my dp having her, and of course she's using me as the bad one, trying to turn her youngest one against me, accusing me of all sorts. I feel so low about it. I do care for my dsds despite problems we have they are both good kids , I do all the caring and running around and I don't mind but this is all really getting to me I do feel like throwing the towel in !!!
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Rosewine72 · 04/05/2016 14:55
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