Met dh ( now ex ) when his dc's were 3, 8 and 10, found it hard but loved the kids as if they were my own, dh and I eventually split and now I am with my new dp, I didn't plan on falling for someone else with young kids, my own dc's ( from ex dh ) are now 10 and 12, I have done the whole 'little children thing' and am now beginning to enjoy adult time. Dp's dc's are 5 and 8, I don't see them very often as they live quite far away, he sees them every weekend but I don't go as I like to spend a day with my dc's as they also see their dad one day each weekend ( so we only get one day together ). I find dc's children hard work, the 5 year old just wingers all the time, they fight like cat and dog ( my dc's rarely fight and never beet the hell out of each other ), they are mean to my dc's ( my dc's have sn's ) and overall it's just hard work when they are here. I feel selfish for not enjoying them being here, dc's parenting skills are so much different than mine, he doesn't really tell them off, never raises his voice at them and let's them get away with a lot. My dc's are reasonably well behaved, I can take them anywhere and they rarely moan.
I don't know why I am writing this, I guess I just needed to tell someone. I'm not really the maternal type, I have found being a parent to my own children and my step children quite hard, sometimes I wish I had never become a parent ( though I love my kids to death ), I just think there's more to life than raising kids and now mine are older I feel I'm getting my life back a little, maybe this is why I'm finding it hard having younger children around again.
Does anyone else find it hard?
Of course I am nice to them when they are here and they don't know how I feel.
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Doing the whole 'step parenting thing' for the 2nd time and not sure if I'm cut out for it.
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Lovemusic33 · 03/05/2016 08:21
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