I have a stepson (M) aged 24. Last year he had a breakdown and I had to retrieve him from A&E and bring him from London to live with us in the Midlands. My 18 year old daughter gave up her bedroom for him and moved in with her 15 yo sister. M has poorly controlled Type 1 diabetes and was suffering from depression. I took him straight to the Gp and he was put on anti-depressants. after a few weeks he was much better, got a bar job and seemed to be making real progress then he stopped taking the medication in January. My daughter's room is a disgusting mess, he is not really eating with the family any more but filling himself with junk food and high sugar drinks such as Sunny Delight. he throws the litter in his room and stuffs it down the side of his bed. He has cancelled 3 GP appointments in a row - the last one because he was ill apparently- and is either in bed (which is full of food debris and chocolate wrappers) outside smoking or at work. We have also found traces of cannabis in his room. He shouted at my daughter when she had a go at him because of the state of her room, and his father seems unaware of the problems. Last night M tried to cause a row between my and my husband because I had tackled him about these issues (we have just recovered from a very serious row about him a couple of weeks ago). I have withdrawn my support from him ( I am no longer taking time off work to make sure he goes to medical appointments) and have told the girls to ignore his bad behaviour and that once he moves out I will have the bedroom stripped, redecorated and fumigated. I am really worried about my relationship with my husband - he split from his last partner over this son. I don't know what to do - we can't throw him out- he will die if we do- but he is refusing to take any responsibility for his own health.
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