Little bit of back story not to drip feed ( and first post on step parenting board)
We've been together 6 months, dp has just moved in. I have a daughter full time and shared custody of my son ( 50/50 which works for us) dp has a daughter who he sees one weekday one weekend and one overnight a fortnight but this is looking likely to be inceeased to overnight every week.
Dp was never in a relationship with the mother literally they had a few dates and slept together and its been very rocky between them ( mainly I feel as she doesnt fully trust dp as he had never been a parent and they are two very different people)
Childs mum has a daughter from previous relationship the same age as my dd who used to occasionally go with dp and sd but it tailed off when he told them about me. This girl has never had a dad again like dd and when exh left she got left behind as she wasn't his bio child and i said from the start I couldnt push this little girl out.
Anyway long story short now ive mentioned some basic background, I met bio mum at the weekend at her request , we all got along as all kids where there and she even said mother to mother she would feel more comfortable about everything now. The girls got on so well and when bio mum mentioned the time for next contact the other girl asked if she could come along to. I didnt hesitate and said of course and she looked so happy.
Bio mum text a few hours later saying thanks for letting her meet me and she feels like I'm a good person and more then happy for me to be around the kids and it meant a lot that I wouldn't exclude her other daughter. Dp is over the moon she's asked to come and even happier that his ex is that happy she's increasing his overnights.
My friends and family think I'm mad for including this child who has no connection to our family but I feel in my heart its the right thing to do,whether its a temp thing until the novelty wears off or her mum meets someone etc. I dont know but I would hate for her to feel excluded in the way my own dd has been.
Please be honest with your opinions - am I doing the right thing or ultimately am I making the situation worse for everyone?
Also apologies about grammar and spelling, I'm using my phone and its hopeless
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DarthPrincess · 22/02/2016 13:53
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