I am 26 years old and I have been with my OH for 3 and a half years and he has a 6 year old daughter with his ex.
From the very early stages I always assumed his ex would cause issues and that it would be a conatant battle but, although it hasn't always been easy, my OH and his ex now co-parent very well and we are all civil and everything works fine!
My OH is in the military and he has his daughter every other weekend or 2 weekends in a row and 2 off, it depends on when he is working so I don't see him during the week and then get limited time with him at the weekends.
My issue is his family. They are not very understanding of our situation and I am left very upset by their words and actions on a regular basis. I will go out of my way to avoid seeing them just to save my feelings! No one has ever asked me how I feel or offered support (bare in mind I moved 300 miles away from my family to make our relationship easier so I am alone during the week). I feel so unappreciated and insignificant! Maybe I am being selfish? I don't know how to make sense of my feelings and I am so disapointed in his family's actions. I have been screamed at by his brother's wife for 'ruining' her bond with her neiece. I can't win! If I have a good relationship with her (which I do) I am the baddy... If I didn't have a good relationship with her I would be the baddy! they are very hypocrytical and when my OH was away for 6 months on tour they made no effort to see her which hurt his and her feelings quite badly.
I feel like me and my OH can't enjoy the relationship or do things just the 2 of us as we are judged. I am too scared to tell anyone we are going on holiday this year, just the 2 of us, in fear of the backlash! Is this normal?! Anyone else experience things like this? Thanks
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LouiseP1989 · 31/01/2016 11:54
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