…how has having a SM shaped how you are with your DP and DSC?
I’ve had a SM for nearly 20 years and we get on really well. I was a bridesmaid at their wedding. SM and DM get on really well and even happily meet up without my DF. Big family gatherings etc.
She was never any sort of parent figure to me, didn’t have DC of her own, never wanted any, didn’t really want us lot (4 of us and we were a handful) around much and was very hands off. Over time we've all bonded and she's more like an aunt.
Since I’ve been with DP certain things about how she and DF handled things back then seem odd. The first time we met her we woke up at his house and she was in his bed. After that she just showed up sometimes. She occasionally said pretty off stuff about my DM to us.
DF almost missed my graduation because one of SM friends had a minor op and she insisted them both being there was more important. She threw a massive strop when I took my DM dress shopping for my wedding (I took SM to choose flowers, and then bridesmaid dress shopping).
I’m sure they both found it difficult and did the best they could. The relationships are all now very caring and positive so no harm done. But my own experience has given me a completely different perspective on some things and I wonder if I've learnt as much about what not to do, than to try and do.
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AnneLovesGilbert · 25/01/2016 15:30
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