My dsd lives with me and dh. She's lived with us since she was 12 and she's 18 now. We've had our ups and downs, particularly when she was 15/16 but things have been so much better in the past year. The problems we've all had haven't been due to me or the step parenting issue but around her feelings about her mum, a lack of coping mechanisms and well, just being a teenager. But as I said things have been so much better in the past year and the house and relationships are much more peaceful and happier.
However, something I've always struggled with is her lack of thought. For instance, she has never bought me a birthday card or text me happy birthday. When she sees me after I get home from work she'll wish me happy birthday but it ends there. I've been visiting family a couple of times on my birthday and received no text, call, nothing. This has always bothered me but I don't say anything because my dh thinks this is just teenage behaviour. She occasionally 'forgets' to buy him a card or gift either but always texts/calls him.
Recently I went into hospital unexpectedly for 4 days and didn't get a text, call or visit from her, although dh visited everyday. She did greet me when I got home and asked a bit about it but I just feel so let down by it.
I'm not a perfect SP but I've tried with her and never been horrible to her. I don't expect her to treat me like a DM or even make a big effort but surely it's not too much to ask to get a text on my birthday (when I blow up balloons and banners for hers) and a text when I'm in hospital?
Or is it like my dh says and this is typical selfish teenage behaviour?
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Findingpeace · 20/11/2015 19:11
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