My OH has a DS, we are not married and we don't live together. We have been together for over a year.
I often go to OH's house to have tea with him and his DS, we all have a great time, DS looks forward to me coming over etc. He knows I am his dad's girlfriend and I was introduced very slowly as a friend first so he could get to know me.
His mum has a boyfriend and introduced her DS to her boyfriend within a week - she has been seeing him for a month -her choice/business but whenever her boyfriend is over and my OH calls his DS he will have no problem saying "oh I'm just doing x y z with mums boyfriend"
However, when my OH's ex wife found out he was seeing someone else (they divorced 3 years ago) she threw an absolute shit fit and said I was never to be in the company of her DS, he asked why not and she could not give a reason - just kept saying I don't know why I just don't want her anywhere near him - so that screams green eyed monster to me. She then made up a load of lies saying that her DS is terrified of me and hates me and doesn't want to go over to his dads when I'm there etc - that turned out to be a complete pack of lies so we carried on as normal.
Anyway - every time I am in the company of DSS and his mum calls him he won't say I'm there... for example last night OH was in the bath and I was downstairs playing on the computer with DSS - having a great time - his mum calls and he said oh I'm just on the computer with my dad..... If he is at my house and she calls he will say he's at his dads house. Last week we were out and about and she called and said who are you with he said no one, just dad.... I find it all a bit odd if I'm honest - almost as if he's too scared to mention he's anywhere near me..
I had a word with OH about this, this morning and he said just let it go if she is giving him shit about spending time with you its easier to just pretend you aren't there.. now personally I don't think it's wise for him to keep lying to his mum, if she is giving him hell for spending time with me that's seriously out of order don't you think? I've asked OH if he could maybe have a word with EXW to discuss it - see if she does have a problem but he refuses - wont discuss anything with her unless he really has to.
Am I over reacting and should just let her think I'm never around, to keep the peace?
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movingonup2015 · 15/10/2015 11:56
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