The other day SD came to me and dp with a problem about a school activity she wanted to do but because it interferred with one of her more important classes she was going to give it up. I thought this was really mature of her to make such a decision and so dp and I advised that maybe she should speak to a teacher and see if they an arrange something else.
Then today when I picked her up (and her brother) I asked if she had spoken to teacher she said no she didn't want to do it anymore.
So I left it asked how school we and basically got ignored by both oth them and could tell they were in some sort of mood.
When I got home I told dp about the atmosphere and about what SD had said. This was in private.
When dp asked his DD what happened she said she hated the subject anyway and didn't want to do it anymore and why was I talking about her behind her back. She stropped off then said some quite hurtful things to dp about me. and that if I have anything to say at all then to say it in front of her. When dp came back and everyone was back in the room I walked in (fuming) and said to dp that I will speak to him in private when I like about who or what I like and no child is going to dictate to me what happens in this house and if I choose to have a private conversation with dp then I will.
DP agreed with me which was good.
I feel like maybe I was harsh but it's how I feel. SD tries to dictate what goes on all the time. I think they get too much adult information frrom both homes (despite me telling dp to not get the kids too involved in household decisions) and she thinks that she has control over how everyone acts.
But I'm more annoyed at the original situation. Her attitude went from wanting to do the activity to saying it had been a waste of time and she didn't like it. I'm sad for her because I feel like she has been given conflicting advice and she's just confused.
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Neverenuff · 01/10/2015 07:02
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