Hello,
Thank you for reading this and sorry if it's long! This could also be a AIBU issue, but wanted to seek views from other step-parents.
Just had a lovely holiday with DP, DSD (15 years old), SIL and her DH.
We were in a restaurant one evening when I noticed that DSD was sitting with her knickers very obviously showing. She had a very short skirt on and she was leaning against the wall next to her, legs wide open, and one foot up on the chair. She was clearly just relaxed and comfortable sitting like that, but I got quite an eyeful and anyone looking at our table could have seen. I very discreetly whispered that her knickers were showing; not in a telling-off way, just in a 'heads-up' way as I would with a friend or family member. No one else at the table heard me. She shot me the filthiest look I've ever seen, which slightly took me aback, and sulked for the rest of the meal. I put this down to embarrassment, but when she did the same again the next day I thought I'd better mention it to DP as she probably isn't aware of what she's doing. She also does this a lot at home, which I personally find a bit odd, but have left it up til now. I think it was the fact that we were in public that made me feel like I should say something.
I picked a quiet moment alone with DP to mention this issue and said it might be worth just keeping an eye out and gently reminding her not to sit like that as it's a bit inappropriate at her age.
DP's response: "So you're basically calling my daughter a whore?"
I was/am gobsmacked by this response. I have no idea where it came from as DP and I very rarely have arguments and I never have, or would bad-mouth DSD.
What do I do? I haven't mentioned it again but surely can't just let this comment go. I feel a bit hurt that DP thinks I could imply such a thing. I was only trying to look out for DSD's best interests. Or AIBU? Any advice would be much appreciated.
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BeeRose30 · 10/09/2015 12:45
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