DD was 8 last week, exH and I have been separated since she was 1. Contact has been regularly EOW since then. Relations between exH and I haven't always been great but DD has been kept out of it. Without fail, DD has been upset before and after contact every single time. She is regularly hysterical and shouts and screams the house down throughout the night. She complains about her dad to me and I'm guessing about me to him. She cries there saying she misses me and sometimes wants to come home, recently she's been demanding he come to see her when it isn't possible then blaming me.
She is mostly really nasty to her younger siblings. She is grumpy and rude and only happy and chatty if she's getting 1:1 attention or her way with something.last year there was a period of 5 months where she didn't see him and she waa a completely different happy child.
I spend my time running around for her to go to school and activities, dragging her siblings along, and all we get is bad attitude. For her birthday we went away for a few days, had a special day out just the two of us, I arranged a surprise tea with her friends on the actual day and a party at the weekend and still she's miserable.
She came back on Sunday from her dad's and was screaming at me within minutes, being rude to her sisters and quite frankly scaring them. She rang him and asked him to come round, I sent him a text and said he could come back and take her if he wanted. He did while telling her all this wasn't on.
She called tonight to apologise but I could tell it was forced and I'm dreading her returning on Wednesday to be honest. The other children are all so much happier without her. They break my heart asking if DD will like them or hurt them when she comes back and I feel like asking if he wants her.
I have paid for counselling for her, spend time with her on our own, her dad and I have spent time with her together. I don't know what else I can do to make her happy besides opting out and letting her live a happy life in one home rather than an unhappy life in two homes.
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At the end of my tether with DD - considering asking exH if he wants her
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FishFace99 · 31/08/2015 23:11
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