Wasn't sure whether to just put this in parenting but opted for here in the end!
So, my dsd is 10, we have her every 3rd weekend due to distance, so nothing in between, although we do FaceTime etc
I have 2 problems at the moment.
The first is definitely because of the time between visits. My eldest ds who is coming up to 4 worships the ground his big sister walks on. As a result he just falls apart when she's here. He's so hyper and overexcited that he just screams and cries and hits and generally can't hold himself together. I feel so sad for him (and for dsd who must find it quite hard work!) I just can't seem to find a way to help him with this though, it happens every time.
The 2nd is dsd! She's a really lovely girl who adores her brother and is so good with him, but she's getting bossier and bossier with him and often says things to him that really aren't her place to be saying eg if he's got cross about something ,before I even have a chance to respond she might start telling him that if he just does x then he can have a treat. Or she's telling him off for things that he doesn't need telling off for, or if I tell him off she'll start telling him off too and go on and on about it. I've asked dh to have a word with her a couple of times and he has, but if anything it's getting worse, especially as she's recently got a bit of the 'teenager' about her! One of the problems in stepfamilies is it can be hard to tell what is just normal family dynamics and what is there because of the situation, I have no idea if this is just how it is when there is a large gap between siblings. So I don't know if I should just be letting it go or if it does need to be dealt with. I will sometimes say something to her, but I prefer dh to do it as I think ultimately it's up to him - the problem is he is pretty oblivious to this kind of thing!
Any suggestions?
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Tory79 · 23/08/2015 19:25
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