Hey all,
Hope that I can get some advice here regarding being a step parent and coping with the grief and sorry to say resentment towards DP's children. I am 32 years old and I am soon to be ( getting married hopefully within the next two years) a stepmother to three young children. I recently had an abortion which was a decision made by both my partner and I. But recently rather then it getting easier it is getting harder. I look at his kids and think that he wanted them with another woman and not me. It makes me feel very insecure, which is silly because it was my decision aswell. When I see him hugging his kids, kissing them even worrying over them , or gushing about how beautiful they all are it really does feel like a dagger going through me and I feel incredibly jealous. I guess I find it hard, as his children are a constant reminder and it is all in my face. In particular with the youngest who is a toddler. My partner admitted that he felt pressured to have his last two children and wanted to be completely honest with his feelings with me. But even though that is a positive it still hurts knowing that he regarded her needs and wants and I in a way miss out and I am going through this heart ache. Does that make sense? Sorry I feel quite emotional writing this. So has anyone else been through this???? Or know a way that I can get through this better?
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Becoming a Stepmother and having an abortion.Does it get better???
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Skattybird29 · 28/07/2015 16:56
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