How do you deal with the constant give, give, give and getting nothing back?
I have 4 step kids, mostly teens and a teenager of my own. I am NEVER acknowledged for what I do. I live with 1 full time, the rest a third of the time, do more washing, cooking, school runs etc etc for them than their own Mum. I work full time to support my own child, my ex doesn't do anything for my son either, so I am left with all the donkey work for him too.
My step kids Mum is regularly praised in my house, as is my ex husband (although less so). They are teens, they are thoughtless and I understand it's difficult for all of them.
I have told my DP I need some acknowledgement from him and appreciation, his response, is always a rather snappy "oh I'll do it all then shall I?". He won't ask his kids to thank me or even acknowledge my presence. I could get my DP to do a lot more practically, but it isn't really about who does what, it's about being acknowledged for what we all do and how we all pull together. I spend hours of my life, building everyone else's self esteem in my home and acknowledging everyone else's contribution to family life but I literally never get anything back!
I generally try and tell myself that I KNOW what I am achieving and I KNOW how capable and organised I am etc etc, but not hearing anything from anyone else is hard to take sometimes.
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thepurplehen · 13/07/2015 13:36
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