Hi all, I'm finding it really hard to deal with all the negativity at the moment. I'm just looking for a bit of advice on how to handle it all. DSS (who's 5) was here for the earlier part of the half term and has started coming out with things like "I can't do xyz as mummy will hate it" and "mummy likes that we now live far away". She's also asking DSS if he'd rather see Daddy or do insert fun thing with her. Of course he's choosing the fun thing. It feels like she's turning DSS against DP. She's stopped contact again and since DP works some weekends (8 am until 8 pm) he won't be able to see DSS now for a month! Although that's assuming she doesn't change contact again, so it could be even longer than a month. She's taken to slagging me and DP off on facebook, saying her DP is stepping up to the plate and being an amazing father in place of DSS's useless one who left (despite the fact DM left DP not the other way around) and that me and DP mean nothing to DSS :( I don't know how to deal with such negativity. It's horrible knowing there's someone out there who hates me so much she spends time actively slagging me and DP off, simply because I happened to fall in love with her ex and her son! Honestly, how do you deal with it? I also have no idea how to support DP. He feels awful he can't see his son for a month and that his ex is so actively hateful towards us. I'm trying to understand it from her point of view but for 1 I don't have DC of my own so have no idea what it's like to be an actual bio mum / separated parent and 2 I just cannot fathom why you would tell your child you hate their father so much. My Nan made it quite clear she thought less of my Mum because she had a different father to her other DC. I know this is different in that DM is only saying she hates his Dad rather than him, but I've seen how hurt my mum is by it all and I just can't understand why you wouldn't want to foster the relationship between your DC and their parent!
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