Hi there,
I am in a 6 month relationship, I have been single for 10 years. I have 2 children of my own a girl nearly 16 and a boy 13.... My partner is a single Dad bringing up a 14 year old boy and an 8 year old girl... he has been on his own with them for 3 years and they only see their Mum every other week after school pick up until they go to school the next morning, and they have to see her seperately because she feels she cant give them equal attention....My partner is sociable and friendly when he meets new people and can hold a good conversation etc.... The children however have no social graces at all!! I took them all to a quiz night locally to me and while we were all (including my partner) have fun and joining in, his 2 were literally glued to mobile phones all night, they didnt join in at all, and if someone spoke to them the 14 year old ignored them and the 8 year old either said a random word or barked like a dog! They are both in my opinion rude to me, and this makes my 2 upset...Dont get me wrong my 2 are not perfect by any means, but they have manners and know how to behave socially! We have been to stay this weekend and the 14 year old was literally glued to his laptop all weekend... we decided to play a board game and unless it was his turn he sat with his laptop on his lap!! the amount of times I asked him to please put it away so we could all be involved in the game and in the end he said it wasnt on, he was just literally sitting with it open staring at a blank screen! The 8 year old has NO table manners at all... in fact neither of them have... but for example.... she wipes her funny nose or sorts out a bogie using her tongue... it makes me feel sick! I am 46 years old and dont like these children!! what am I going to do? I really have fallen in love with this man..... I spoke to him this evening about how I was feeling, and his answer was that one day they will all leave home and we can properly start to enjoy our lives... there are NO plans for us all to live together at this stage, although we both do feel very strongly about each other if there were no children on his side (or like weekend visits etc) we would be living together I am sure! I cant talk to my friends about this, as I have been alone for so long and everyone is so happy for me to be happy.... plus I do not want anyone to judge the realtionship! any advice would be welcome!! :(
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philly1969 · 10/05/2015 22:57
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