We picked DSD up on the friday afternoon that the schools broke up. We had her all of the way through to Monday afternoon then we drove her back to her mums (they moved 60 miles away about 1.5 years ago - her mum refuses to pick her up or drop her off unless we pay her petrol money to do so) everything regarding DSD is done via mutual agreement - no CSA, no courts etc. I dont nessecarily agree with the way that everything is on DH's ex's terms but it hasn't really got anything to do with me so I've never gotten involved before. I figured that DSD seemed happy enough and that was all that mattered.
I picked her up again this morning (we will have her until Sunday evening) DPs ex rang and said that we could have her. She got into the car no problems said bye to mum etc, I did think she was a bit quieter than usual but thought she was maybe tired. About 10 minutes into the drive home she absolutely broke down into sobbing, upset tears "I heard mummy say I'm a bad girl and that she doesn't want me so she's sending me to my daddy's house, mummy doesn't want me anymore." Don't get me wrong she can be very challenging at times aren't all five year olds but I'm upset for her.
Her parents split up when she was a tiny baby - she's been passed from pillar to post since then, before they moved from our area (they were only 6 miles down the road) we had her 4/5 nights per week and then she would often stay at her grandparents or aunties for the remainder of the week. I always worried whether it would do her any harm but felt it wasn't my place to say anything.
Back to the car, I pulled in and tried to reassure her that mummy was just mad and that when people are mad they say things that they really don't mean and that mummy loves her to bits etc.
She doesn't seem to see DSD a great deal but she calls the shots re arrangements. We have her every weekend and suggested to her that we could maybe have her EOW which meant that they would get some quality time together too but she said that she had "things to do" on a weekend. This can't be right
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Peppapigsbitch · 08/04/2015 15:22
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