just looking for a bit of advice really...
I have a ds who is 4. My fiance has 3 kids - 2 ds who are 5 and 2, and a dd who is 6.
We've been together for 18 months and I've been in the dcs life for about a year, gradually at first, but more recently seeing them twice/three times a month.
I was the reason that their parents split I guess - dp hadn't been happy for a long time and we met at work. He left his wife to be with me, though nothing happened between us for another 2 months after that.
I get on great with the boys. the 5 year old is a typical boy and accepted me immediately. He gets on great with my ds too which helps.
The 2 year old is brilliant - a bundle of fun and laughter. He doesn't remember his life without me in it.
The problem is his dd. She still remembers her life before me and I think she blames me for her dad leaving. I try really hard with her. sometimes I see her and shell come running up for a cuddle, and other times she will blow raspberries at me and won't come anywhere near me. its like she's totally conflicted by her feelings for me.
Tonight, we were messing around, I was tickling her and she was laughing and all of a sudden she looked me dead in the eye and said "I know your not my mummy". I laughed and said, no, she has a lovely mummy at home and I am just daddy's friend.
does anyone have any ideas on how best to handle myself with her? I'm so desperate for her to like me I worry that it comes across to her.
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januaryblues11 · 22/03/2015 17:53
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