Evening.
Just looking for a range of opinions really. We have DSD EOW for two nights, DP sees her during the week but she doesn't stay over. Occasional phone contact. This works for both families, everyone is happy with this, we've asked DSD and she is happy with how things are.
DSD's mum always calls/face times when she stays over, this is generally in the evening, when we're doing wind down time (she's 5) before bed, so she's nice and calm and instantly gets ramped to hyped up. Importantly (I think) it doesn't upset her, or make her ask for her mum, she just gets hyper, running round the dining table hyper, which 20 mins before bed isn't ideal! DSD doesn't ask to speak to her mum whilst she's here, she's happy, secure and we have a good routine, but DP and myself feel the contact from mum is intrusive due to the hyping up. If DSD was upset and wanted her mum then yeah, talk to mum, but she's not upset, she's calm and happy.
All the adults involved have a really good relationship, we get on, the kids come first, it's truly lovely, but DP and I think that the calling/facetiming should stop, but we're conscious of not wanting to upset DSD's mum. Not for any other reason than just not wanting to upset someone, there's no horrid ExW issue here, she's bloody lovely!
So then, do we ask it to stop? Should we? If so, how? If not, how the frig do we calm down a hyper 5 year old just before bed? Help!
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WestEast · 14/03/2015 20:56
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