I am 24 years old and I have a son of 3 and a step-daughter of 11. Me and my partner have been together for 5.5 years now, I met him when his daughter was 6, and we always got on incredibly well, she had a lot of respect for me and I had a very relaxed approach to my role of being a step-parent and we had a lot of fun together. However, in the last year or so she has developed some incredibly difficult behaviour, which I believe is down to hormonal changes and learnt behaviour. She started to lose control at her BM's house, which is what her older sister has been doing for years now, even to the extent that they've been threatened to be kicked out of their property. The anger started to come out at our house and I guess it took us by surprise and maybe we didn't deal with it in the best way possible and now she has adopted that pattern of behaviour we are struggling to break it. She shouts at me, screams, tells me to shut up all in front of my son and often when this happens it can go on for hours. We have tried ignoring it but she didn't stop and she actually continuously pushed my leg whilst I was sowing as I wouldn't give her homework book back when she refused to go to bed at 11pm on a school night. I have become so short tempered and fed up, it makes me question my relationship with my partner, during this time I just want to get out as it's so intense. She is with us for a whole week every other week and I have started to dread her coming over. On top off all of this struggle I have a lot of things I am trying to deal with such as my father being in prison and my partner being aggressive towards me on a number of occasions two years ago. I feel like I am getting angry and not being myself. I am very unhappy. I wanted to work through things with my partner as we have a child together but this is adding so much extra stress I just don't think I can cope. Honestly I have had enough of anger and drama in my life at this stage. Me and my partner have made good progress with our relationship and I love him dearly but this is too much. My SD's sister is now 16 and has been arrested on around 6 occasions for her out of control aggression and I am scared because I can see my SD going down the same route. After having to deal with the aggression from my partner it feels unfair that I have to now deal with the aggression from my SD, I don't know how to resolve this.
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