So I have two stepsons, 13 & 14 and I'm expecting my first (a girl) in April. I am fortunate in that they are both excited and not resenting it. However, I'm conscious that their Dad always paints an unrealistically rosy picture about everything and know that they're going to struggle with certain aspects of having a baby sibling. Has anyone else experienced the same? Any pearls of wisdom? I had a few questions the last time they were staying about whether she'd be a tomboy (they assumed she would be because she'd have brothers) and whether it would mean Dad would be tired and grouchy (he has been recently because of stress at work)!!! I explained that both of us probably would be but know that my answer probably didn't get the message home enough.
I want to sit down with them nearer to the birth and go through a warts and all on new babies and how this one will potentially affect them (crying, having a fairly rigid schedule that we'll have to work around etc). Their mum is a helicopter mum who's life is all about her kids and they're a similar age with similar interests so are not used to having to consider anyone else apart from themselves. I can foresee that if we say, no they can't do that thing they wanted to because on this occasion (obviously, it's give and take in both directions), it won't work baby-wise, that they're just going to assume its us being unreasonable - and even worse, start resenting their sister. Am I just going to have to accept that this is going to happen or is there something I can do to help them with the transition? Are there any books out there that deal with exactly this aimed at kids? Or any educational videos, websites out there? In reality, it doesn't have to be step-family related because they're not feeling threatened but I guess it could happen....
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AbiBanbury · 16/01/2015 17:53
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