Dss is 22, he has been suffering with severe mental health problems for 2 years and also uses drugs ( coke, crack, weed ), in the summer he was sectioned after trying to take his own life, whilst in hospital he came off the drugs as obviously he couldn't get any, medication was sorted out for his mental health problems and he was given support when he returned home. Although this was the first time he has been sectioned his has been hospitalised and spend time on psych wards 4 or 5 times, once resulting in a long stay in a unit ( which he then discharged himself from ). Each time he has left clean and then returned to taking drugs. He turns up on my door a couple times a week begging for money or a lift somewhere ( probably to get drugs ) and I have started to turn him away, I have 2 young dd's with sn's and they are starting to get scared of him turning up here. Sometimes he turns up and seems quite normal ( normal for him ), other times he doesn't even know what day it is. He usually turns up when dh is at work expecting dh to be here to give him a lift somewhere, he doesn't think that we might be busy or not here.
Last Friday her turned up at 11pm after texting dh several times asking for money, dh said 'no' but he still turned up late at night banging on the door, I went to the door and asked him to leave, he c. could hardly stand up, had huge eyes and didn't have a clue what the time was. I explained to him that he was going to wake everyone up and asked him to leave and come back tomorrow if he wanted to see his dad. He left.
Dh then spoke to him on the phone a few days later and explained that the only thing we will give him is food ( no money ) and told him to stop turning up on our doorstep begging for money, he denied being on drugs but we know for sure that he is because of his behaviours, the huge eyes and how desperate he is for money.
He is meant to be coming over on Boxing Day as he has done every year since he was 10 years old, I'm really worried about having him around our DDs and tbh I don't want him here because it's going to cause problems, DSs will be very upset if we say he can't come, he is like a 10 year old still ( due to his mental health ) and is likely to go off on one.
I don't know what to do, this has been going on for so long and I can't see things getting any better when he wont do anything to help himself. I know he is mentally ill and up until know I have done my best to support him and be sympathetic but there's only so much we can do when he wont help himself. Mental health services havn't been great but they do offer him some support.
So what do we do about Boxing Day? I think dh and I will fall out about it, he wants him to still come but I don't want someone who's high on drugs ( or on a come down ) near my children. I want to enjoy Boxing Day with my dd's and my dsd ( she deserves a break from him too ).
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Adult step son on drugs. Don't want him here at Christmas (sad).
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marne2 · 18/12/2014 11:55
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