How old were your step children when you met them?

[sg2015]

Just curious to know how old everyone's sc were when you met them/partners?
I met my partner (ss doesn't see his bm) when ss was 2 and a half!
Just a nosy post really :)

[FreeSpirit89]

DSD was 5 when I meet her.

[GemmaTeller]

6 1/2 months.

I've been her step mum for over 20 yrs.

[WestEast]

She was 4.

[Maroonie]

SS was 7, he is 9 now.
Scary how fast time goes...

[Queenofknickers]

She was 3 and that was 16 years ago.....

[happygirl87]

4 - 5 yrs ago. Can the people who met their DSCs around 4 and have now known them for decades please come back tell me how great their relationships are?!

[PesoPenguin]

6 and now he's nearly 15.

[ChiefBillyNacho]

I can happygirl. Met her when she was 4, she's now 19 and lives with me (and my dp) even though I'm no longer with her dad. She refers to me to others as her mum.

[Wifeandstepmum]

She was 5.
I've heard it takes a year for each year of the child's age when you met them (iyswim) to establish a proper parental role in their lives. I'd says that's probably realistic...

[WaitingForMe]

DSS1 was 4 and DSS2 had just turned 1. There has been a definite difference in how my relationship with them developed - DSS2 has never had any real sense of life without me.

In saying that, while DSS1 and I took longer to bond, he is an absolute delight five years on. He thinks I'm a bit mad because I get a bit teary when he plays with 23 month old DS.

[SorrelForbes]

12 and 13. Going other people's experiences (on here and in RL), I suspect thinsg may have been easier if they'd been younger!

[ThatDamnedBitch]

DSD was 2. She's 22 now, makes me feel old.

[StepMum87]

DSD was 2 1/2 and has just turned 6. It's strange to be reminded that she's already known more of life with me than without.

[bonnymiffy]

DSS was 7, he's now 12 (nearly 13). I used to be the best thing ever! That's changed.... I hope it changes back again but suspect it may take a while!!

[ijustwanttobeme]

DSD was 15, DSS 11 and DSD2 7.

Six weeks after we met, exW said she did not want to have DSCs, so they came to live with DP full time.

22 years later and I'm now step gran to 5.

[purpleroses]

Between 7 and 13. The younger ones were easier to bond with and feel parent-like to. They're 11-17 now, and I get on great with eldest, but still don't really feel like a parent to her. Youngest has only vague memories of a time when I wasn't in his life though

[daisychain01]

My DSS was 8 when I met him, he is now 17 (big brute of a man!)

I reckon if you ask him if he remembers life without Daisy, he probably couldn't!

[thebluehen]

Between the ages of 5 and 12. They're now 11-18. The eldest has been hardest to bond with. Youngest can't remember life without me and does seem more accepting.

[SaltedCaramels]

12 and 15. 12 yr old is now 19 and lives with us. we get on fine but I've never tried to have a parental role as she is in close contact with her mum, and my DH is a great dad. I don't actually feel like a step mum at all, mor like a flat mate!

[riverboat1]

He was 4, now 9.

He doesn't remember the time when his parents were together, as he was only 1 when they split, and I don't think he really much remembers the intervening time before I came on the scene either. Which I tend to think makes things much easier for me, as I have never had to deal with suspicion or resentment. He was young enough when I met him that it was just a bonus to have someone extra around who would play with him!

[smilingthroughgrittedteeth]

Dss was 7 and dsd was 12, I definitely agree the youngest was easier to bond with although now im closer to the eldest.

they are 11 and 16 now

[googoodolly]

One and four. Now nearly three and five and a half