I don't really want to make this an epic essay so will try not to drip feed whilst being as brief as I can!
Dsd is 11 we have shared care 3-4 nights a week. I have been with my dh since she was 3 (dh and ex gf broke up 2 years previous to my existence)
The issue we have now is that over the years she has become more and more inclined to have tantrums, recently after asking her to finish her school work she threw a fit which resulted in her kicking me and scratching my face.
My dh whilst agrees her behaviour is unacceptable says it's normal pre teen stuff. I disagree.
When she goes into one of her episodes you cannot do anything with her, she shouts screams slams doors is very rude calling me a bitch and telling me she hates me. All her anger is directed at me even though it was her dad that has asked her to do something.
Consequences don't work, she doesn't care, she won't go to her room when asked she just sits and screams 'no you can't make me'. She shows no remorse the next day and will often give her dad and I attitude.
Her mum has had similar issues with her, my problem is I now have anxiety whenever she is due to come home to us. She wants attention 24/7. She does get a lot of 1-1 time and we talk about all sorts of things. To be honest lately all we seem to talk about is how she's had a crap day at school because no one likes her. Usually DSD and I get on very well though in our house I am far more strict on boundaries etc.
I just don't know where to go from here. I don't know how to help an obviously very unhappy girl and I don't know how to get dh to see she needs some sort of help, that it's not a dig at his parenting more getting her help to cope with how she's feeling.
Ok that wasn't brief..sorry!
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FishesTit · 01/11/2014 16:14
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