wedding dilemma

[anniepanniepears]

I have been married to my lovely dh for 24 years and we have 2 teenagers together and he has 1 ds and 2 dd from his first marriage now in their forties. When I met my husband his first wile had passed away and his family had all left home and were living with partners or married.
For the first 10/12 years we all got on fine(or so I thought) went on holiday or took the grand kids away .to cut a long story short I hear through the grapevine that his son did not want his dad to marry me and when my husband confronted him a big row erupted with the result I have been non contact with ss and sd for over 10 years my dh and our teenagers still visit them but not me as some things that were said were unforgivable youngest sd is lovely and so is her family .
My dilemma is that one of the step grandsons is getting married and my dh expects me to go to the wedding when I don't want to go I think it would cause a terrible atmosphere
( if I wasn't there no one would miss me) I have told him to go with our two but he says he will not go if I don't
I know the easiest answer would be just to grin and bear it but I really don't want to be involved with them again .

[ByeByeButterfly]

Why not just go to ceremony and leave DH and kids to go to reception (where drink is involved).

Would your DH be up for that?

How do you get on with his grandson? If he likes you I'd go as it's not his fault what his Dad is like.

[anniepanniepears]

Grandson used to come with us every weekend but when I went nc with his mum he has never been in touch not even with my dh youngest dd
I think the problem is all the family want my dh to be there but they know if I was not invited he would not go
Think that could be a solution Byebye,will put that to hubby thanks