Question promoted by a post on another thread but not a TAAT per se hence I thought I would ask the question here.
Why is almost invariably assumed, that where the step-children don't like the step-parent that is due to an embittered ex? Or indeed the actions of the step-parents partner?
Surely sometimes the children just might not actually like the individual? Might all on their own without prompting and/or coaching feel uncomfortable with the situation? May instinctively want to be 'loyal' to or protect the other parent? Might be angry that the step-parent is being forced into their lives and they are expected to accept/live with/respect/obey an individual purely because one of their parents has decided that they will? Perhaps they feel resentful that they have minimal time with their parent and are forced to share it with this new partner?
Do the desires/wants of a parent to have a new partner and be happy over-ride the child's feelings/opinion/instincts/happiness.
[For the record I am not step-parent; have no time for my former husbands partner (who was indeed the OW) and have had very little exposure to step-families until recently. I am not a goady fucker but genuinely am struggling with this idea that each parent has the right to crack on with their new life and the children will accept this this, always and unquestioningly, assuming all adults accept it.]
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Why can't children just sometimes not like their step-parent?
Caorunn · 15/09/2014 18:49
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