My DH is an intelligent, experienced man. How is it that he is manipulated every day by a 13-year-old? Now the 9-year-old is following suit. I can't bear to see it. I'm trying hard to spin it as a weakness born of the strength of his fatherly love but most of the time I'm combatting the urge to think less of him.
I know it's got a lot to do with DSS1 & DSS2 proving to me that they're still in charge, as they were before I came along. I know they feel the need to prove this because my DH actually spots the manipulation occasionally since I'm on the scene. But his movement towards being the grown-up in his relationship with DSS1 & DSS2 is glacial and they're way ahead of him.
They are good kids, I understand why they do it and we all get on well a great deal of the time. When they 'manage' him in my presence I generally walk away. But when it affects me, or my son, I don't. And that's causing conflict.
Any advice or sympathy would be gratefully accepted.
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Why does DH allow himself to be constantly manipulated by DSS 1 & 2?
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stillsmilingjust · 12/09/2014 23:20
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