End of year teacher presents

[swissfamily]

Do any other SM's do these for their SC?

I always ended up doing them for DSD when she was with us 50/50 but am wondering about gently suggesting Mum sorts them out this year. DSD now spends term time with Mum and holidays with DH so it's Mum that sees the teachers every day and I kind of think that makes it her responsibility. She'll be the one collecting DSD on the last day of term. I did them at Xmas and it was an absolute nightmare not to mention expensive posting them all from here (we live overseas).

I think Mum might claim she can't afford it but I think DH could suggest she help DSD make a card if she does say that. He pays maintenance plus extras and always has.

Reasonable?

[UniS]

ERM, just don't do teacher end of term presents if you don't want to. They are not mandatory.

[swissfamily]

Really? It's fairly 'de rigueur' at my kids's schools.

[purpleroses]

I've rarely done them tbh - I think last year was the only time, and that was because DD had had an absolutely fantastic teacher that had done so much for her. DD wanted to give her something so made some flapjacks to take in. I don't think it's mandatory, and if DSD isn't with you on her last day of term, definitely not your job. DSD can make a card or something if she wants.

If children do take in gifts to their teachers, they bring them in themselves on the last day of term, so they can have the pleasure of giving them to the teachers. It's a bit crazy you posting them from abroad!

[CrispyKitKat]

I don't for my DSC (I leave that to mum) but do for my own. It's never been anything too extravagant though - basically a small box of chocs or a bunch of flowers. It doesn't have to have any expense element either. It could be something homemade by your DSD. It's the thought and sentiment that count.

As others have said though, it's not mandatory.

[swissfamily]

I've always done it for mine and will continue to unless they have a particularly bad teacher. When we had DSD 50/50 she'd see me doing it for the other kids and expected it too which is fair enough but things are different now. Agreed it doesn't have to expensive; we went to a strawberry farm and picked strawberries for their teachers one year.

I think I'll suggest to DH that he doesn't mention it at all and just leaves Mum to it from now on. It will no doubt turn into a 'thing' if he does mention it..

[slkk]

As a teacher, end of term gifts are nicest when chosen by or made by the children, e.g. a nice card or picture. Really, it's not a huge issue and in my experience some children give them, some don't. If you are overseas it seems crazy that this is something you worry about even a tiny bit.