What a carp night!

[TheMumsRush]

Ds 16m has had v&d for the last few days, DH goes to get dsc yesterday from school as normal. I tell him ds is no better. I was thinking contact might not be the best idea because 1, I don't think it's fair to risk dsc getting ill and 2, I knew we were in for a rough night and they share a room but I can't say that as it would not go down well . Well, night time comes and it's hell. Ds up all night, he won't settle out of his cot but can't put him in there due to dsc. DH turns to me at 4 am and said he doesn't think the kids coming was a good idea!! I was cross because if it had come from me I'd be seen as being out of order!!! Rant over!

Ps don't know what's happening tonight but we both pretty irritable

[WeebleOfWombledon]

I don't think I'd want my DSC coming if it could be helped either. If there was no other option then obviously they'd have to come but if possible I want them to stay away. D&V spreads like wildfire - I hope they don't end up going home with it. And I hope your DS feels better soon + your both able to get some much needed rest and sleep.

[TheMumsRush]

I don't feel to great myself. Dsc could have gone to GP's but not for me to say. I was thinking of it from the other way also. I wouldn't want my son going somewhere he could quite possibly get ill. DH should have told exgf really.

[TheMumsRush]

Carp night?? Lol you can tell I'm tired

[WeebleOfWombledon]

Yeah, I think your DH should have told his ex (if he hasn't already) that DS is unwell with D&V. If he hasn't he could risk her getting all understandably peeved off because she wasn't aware and now the DSC have got it.

Common sense really, that if it's possible then it's best to stay away until it's cleared off.

[TheMumsRush]

If it was a cough or cold not a problem. I don't have the energy to deal with them charging around the flat. At 13 (and taller than me) and 7 (but age 10 clothes) it gets hectic.

[Whereisegg]

Well you have a good way to start the discussion with him now at least...
"Dp, next time ds has something catching like d&v do you think we should warn dsc mum and let her decide if she wants to risk them coming? If not, perhaps you could pop over and take them out for tea one evening in the week to catch up with them"

We have always given my dss mum the choice when resident dc are ill with something like this, we make it very clear he is welcome though.

[TheMumsRush]

I most certainly will next time! I might put it as not an option though as not only could it mean then getting sick but I can't settle ds when he does wake up, and that leads to a crap night for all

[crazykat]

When we've had this situation where one of us or our DCs have had d&v I've always said to DH to ring his ex and tell her one of us has been ill and left it up to her whether she sends DSD or not. If one of us is still bad with it he says that DSD can't come as its not fair to either her or our DCs.

There's always someone who says access should carry on regardless but IMO its ridiculous to risk exposing DCs to something like d&v when it can be avoided, fair enough if its a cold but d&v is awful. Just like if the non resident kids have d&v at home the day before access IMO they should stay at home rather then expose others to the virus.

[Whereisegg]

It is crazy to expose any child to d&v unless absolutely necessary, dsc or not.

We have also been warned when dss has been ill, so it works very well for us.

[RedFocus]

I would not allow my kids to go to their dads if there was a really big chance they would bring back d&v with them. I also wouldn't let dsc visit if they had it. Big no no for me I'm afraid.

[brdgrl]

Sorry you had the carp night ;) - but on the plus side, you should find it much easier to make the point next time. If you'd stopped them coming this time, he'd not have learned, and you'd be the baddie.