I guess I'll eventually know

(21 Posts)
TheMumsRush Mon 23-Dec-13 20:09:58

What's going in over new year! I guess when dh and xgf have worked it out ill find out what I'm doing! Grrrr! I hate that I have to work like this some times sadwinewinewine

TheMumsRush Mon 23-Dec-13 20:11:33

And if I try to nudge things along I'm "over stepping and butting in" arrrrrr

flowerpotgirl12 Mon 23-Dec-13 20:56:44

urg this sort of thing annoys me, how is knowing what you are doing in your own life overstepping and butting in! I informed dp that anything that effects my life is ky business to which includes knowing when dsc are coming etc.

TheMumsRush Mon 23-Dec-13 21:05:14

I've said that soooo many times, it's my life to! But dh is so disorganised!!! I really don't mind what we do, have them don't have them! I just want to know....aibu waaaaaaa!

flowerpotgirl12 Mon 23-Dec-13 21:40:00

definitely not bu! it's just comnon decency to inform you of plans that affect you.

TheMumsRush Mon 23-Dec-13 21:55:46

Thanks flower, I can't rant in RL wine

NatashaBee Mon 23-Dec-13 21:58:12

YANBU, XW deals with me these days as she knows I will reply to her emails quicker than DH does. It used to drive me bonkers not being able to make plans. I was happy to fit around anything but just wanted to know what was going on!

TheMumsRush Mon 23-Dec-13 22:12:30

We all three get on ok (as in i don't get involved) but it would be so much better if I could deal with xgf. I did once, got no reply. Dh got told "I will only deal with you about the kids" fair enough.

TheMumsRush Mon 23-Dec-13 22:14:05

Things have gotten better since then though, but you can't push it hmm

MuttonCadet Fri 27-Dec-13 08:39:29

We found out about Christmas contact on the 18th Dec, which was earlier than normal. We still don't know what's happening on NYE....

TobyLerone Fri 27-Dec-13 08:47:44

Why don't you just make your own plans?

Beccawoo Fri 27-Dec-13 08:48:09

I think it's a woman thing tbh - XH is a pain and so slow sorting out contact, even now I'm getting texts about what time today should be bring my dcs back, but DP is just as bad sorting out times and days with his Xp! As a bit of a planner and organiser, it drives me mad!

TheMumsRush Fri 27-Dec-13 09:42:17

I still don't knowshock I can't make my own plans if I don't know who is going to be here.

TobyLerone Fri 27-Dec-13 10:09:29

Why?

Petal02 Fri 27-Dec-13 10:13:37

In any other area of life, it's usual and polite for the "lady of the house" to know who's coming for dinner, needing a bed for the night etc etc - but on Planet Step Child there are a whole different set of rules ........

TheMumsRush Fri 27-Dec-13 10:40:26

Because of a travel situation that I won't bore with, I need to know. I need to get stuff in/or not. I game my own dc to consider too. That's why!

Peacesword Fri 27-Dec-13 10:41:53

My xh finally managed to contact me this morning about when he's having dd. A whole hour's notice.

I think some people are and like to be organised, others aren't and it doesn't bother them. Just like some people can cope with uncertainty and just adapt as things change, whereas others can't deal with that.

princessalbert Fri 27-Dec-13 10:48:57

Yes, I hear you OP.

We have it on both sides here.

I only found out the day prior, that DS was going to his dad's on Xmas Eve. Despite me asking over 2 weeks ago.

Still don't know if we have DS in the New Year - or which DSS. Sigh...

I have taken to drink. It doesn't seem to matter then.

JustAnotherChristmasBauble Fri 27-Dec-13 10:48:59

If it's any concellation, it annoys us step kids too!
I remember many years where my (very blasé) parents left me waiting to know.

TheMumsRush Fri 27-Dec-13 10:51:52

Yes just, it can't be nice fir the kids either sad

Peacesword Fri 27-Dec-13 11:22:35

I think there are times when it does matter that you know, and I think it's ok to push for an answer on those occasions. Not sure about the "lady of the house" thing though. Men are perfectly capable of getting a house ready for visitors or meals!

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