Hi everyone. I have to confess I am somewhat of a lurker on here (always finding good advice and tips - thank you all!)
Got a bit of a poser (and need a rant). Appreciate thoughts from step parents and parents alike.
I have two dsc and one ds. The dsc's mother is quite interfering and controlling about a lot of things. Now, recently, she's turned her attention to food. I have known in the past for her to send massive bags of crisps, sweets and biscuits in the kids' suitcases whoever we take them away. Annoying, but whatever. Anyway, now she's routinely moaning about what we feed the kids. Most meals the kids get here are home cooked from scratch and we have loads of snacks on offer - fruit, yoghurt, cheese, bread, biscuits, Pom bears, fruit loaf, etc. A few weeks ago, she sent a ranty email to dh with a list of the only food the kids will eat (they won't eat the same meals at her house you understand - she gives them different food).
So, dss will eat frozen chicken satay, frozen burgers, chicken nuggets, chips and pizza, ready meal roast pork, toad in the hole and cottage pie (not fresh! Ha, he always does at our house!). Also will drink lemonade. Dsd will eat ready meal bolognaise, frozen fish, ready meal stew, ready meal roast chicken, chocolate spread on toast. Will drink diet coke.
Now, I am quite shocked that a nice middle class mum thinks it's ok to feed her kids that kind of food every day, but my question is, what do I do? I will not feed that kind of food to my ds, dh, nor will I eat it myself. Nor do i particularly want to feed it to my dsc, whom i love very much. But now the ex wife is virtually accusing us of starving dss and trying to withhold contact (it's a shared custody arrangement). It's very upsetting for me and dh, and now dss is starting to become manipulative about food, despite the fact he eats what we have in the house and never starves, but obviously would prefer pizza and lemonade. (dsd is old enough to see through this and loves what she eats here).
Help! What do I do? Stand firm, or buy them ready meals, etc, for them to eat while we eat the good stuff?
Thank you :-)
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theoldmiff · 17/11/2013 18:29
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