Really bloody fed up today

[WholeNutt]

We have 50/50 of dh daughter who is 10. Since Friday she has been all mouth and I am sick of it. Examples..

Did you get me xxx
Can I have a drink
Can you get me my socks
Can you get my coat
I don't want to go
I want to watch my programme
I AM! (When asked to put her things away)

You can't have a conversation without her butting in wanting all the details.

No pleases no thank yous and besides she's old enough to get these things by herself.

The way she speaks to us is disgusting, the back chat the shouting the tantrums I just can't deal with it.

She's not having a great time at school, it seems she's not very well liked and it appears this is because she likes to tell her peers what to do and tell the teacher on them if they are doing something naughty.

We have 2 shy cats and she is constantly following them, trying to 'help' them through the cat flap. No amount of telling works she appears to be deaf.

Just having a rant really as I'll explode soon!!! She's not always like this but when she is it drives me meggy!!

[Chocolatesandicecream]

I have a ten year old dd and they can be tiring. I hope you're not actually getting these things for her. It's exasperating whether you are birth or step parent. Surely it's not too long before wine o'clock.

[WholeNutt]

No I don't get these for her but guess who will!! All hail the Disney dad!

She's not daft she knows exactly how to play dh and he's too blinded by adoration to see :)

[Chocolatesandicecream]

There lies your problem. We laugh at dd when she asks us to get something she is perfectly capable of getting or doing for herself.

[DiamondsAndDust]

I agree with Chocolates, the reason she is speaking to you like this is because she is allowed to get away with it. If your DH isn't going to correct her on her manners and her back chat it's just going to carry on.

Has her attitude escalated since she's been having trouble at school? She could also be taking her frustrations out on you by back chatting like that.

DSD went through a phase when she first started school of coming home and throwing herself in to massive tantrums, terrible back chat and hitting her dad when she couldn't get her own way.

It turned out that during her school hours she was getting bullied because she didn't live with her Mum. So once school was out, it was DH she directed all her anger towards.

Thankfully it's all calmed down now.

[TheMumsRush]

My dsd is heading that way, She's a few years off 10. Yesterday dh was doing something and asked me to pour her a bowl of cereal. I went into the kitchen and got her to do it (dss said she does is all the time at home, she's never done it here as dh will do it). Told her how good it was of her to do it for herself :) I then told dh, I said she's more than capable, he replied "well, it saves the mess if we do it"!! I hate that attitude! Kids learn if they do it wrong they don't have to do it at all

[Kaluki]

I agree that the problem here isn't your DSD but your DH.
This is the result of Disney parenting.
He needs to stop letting her do it or she will get worse.

[ZombieMojaveWonderer]

My son is the same lol it's the age I'm afraid as my eldest was the same but now she does it a lot less. My son is very well liked. In fact I would go as far as saying he is very popular. My daughter was picky with her friends and kept herself to herself but at secondary she has a lot more friends. It's definitely just a stage she will pass through. Just keep reminding her of her manners and pulling her up when she's rude. Just tell her to leave the cats alone or they will scratch her and you'll have to put 'her' up for rehoming joke btw.

[purpleroses]

She sounds very like my DD, also 10.

Absolutely normal behaviour for a 10yold.

But a parent who runs around fetching her socks or switching off their own TV programme to allow hers is behaving more like a slave than a parent imo.