Stuck between a rock and a hard place!

[Yingyang14]

So basically my OH had a Dss from previous relationship we have always gotten along well which I really treasure. Last night as we were putting him to bed dss said he didn't want my OH and wanted me to put him to bed. I thought this is lovely how well he has accepted but then my OH barely spoke to me all evening and has seemed really hurt by it. I would never try to step in the way of his and dss relationship but it's so hard to find the perfect balance of being close but not being too close. Has anyone else experienced this? How do you find the balance?

[UnicornsPooGlitter]

Crikey, tell your OH to get over it. He should be pleased that you get along so well, not being a prat about it.

[eslteacher]

I have to agree with Unicorns. My DP would be delighted to get a night off reading bedtime stories, which is not his favourite part of parenting!

How old is your DSS and how long have you been in his life? How is DSS's relationship with his mum? Is your DP generally an active/involved dad or does he leave a lot of stuff to you? Just trying to get a picture of the situation.

[Yingyang14]

Hi River DSS is 3 been in his life about 1 and half years no he is a very active dad spends a lot of time with him and they have a really good bond. Just really struggling at the moment with bein g close with my DSS but not wanting to step on any toes taking away parenting things. Hopefully this was just a one time bit of an over reaction haha.

[Kaluki]

Your DP needs to grow up!! He's behaving like a sulky child!
He should be pleased that his ds is so close to you, the alternative would be awful.
He can't expect you to have DSS in your life but for you to have no connection with him. He can't have it both ways.

[UC]

Agree with Unicorns and Kaluki too. I wish my DS would let my DP read him bedtime stories once in a while (he is step dad)!!!