DSD lives with us.
Her mum doesn't pay any maintenance.
She doesn't contribute 'in kind' either.
Me and DH are having issues. Around lots of things but I feel very resentful that his relationship with her is nil, to the extent that the don't communicate. If she fails to turn up, or let's DSD down, he doesn't confront her or do anything. He says my negative feelings are not helpful and he won't discuss it.
I understand what he is saying but where does the frustration go if I can't even discuss it with him?!
Anyway.
We are skint. Since being off on MAT leave we can barely make ends meet. Debt, everything.
I have alluded to this with DSDs mum before hoping she would offer to contribute (D0h won't ask her for money, he just wont) - I dropped it in as she asked me to pay for 1D tickets (invited me along and then made it clear I would be paying for me and DSD and travel and hotel). I said would have loved to but we are really struggling at the moment etc etc.
Today, DSD came home with a new pair of boots, claiming that they are school boots. She has perfectly good clarks shoes which we had to budget like crazy for and I was irritated (wrongly, I know) that she didn't contribute then but swans in with these now rather than asking if we need anything.
So I text her.
I tried to be very VERY nice and just said that whilst the boots were lovely we are struggling at the month and DSD has lots of things like £200 school trip to pay for, and if she is thinking of buying something it would really help us if she could contribute to that.
She is very very upset, angry, phoned MIL in tears, I'm a bitch, we're rich, it's our own fault for buying a 'big house' (3 bed terrace, not that it's relevant) - we chose to have a baby etc.
I feel like shit. It was so unnecessary of me, it's all bloody kicked off and it was just so stupid to get involved.
Things are just so awful at the moment all round.
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