Briefly - DP slapped my DSD15 whilst on holiday. This was after he caught her smoking and AFTER she called him some vile names, bit him and scratched him repeatedly causing deep marks with her nails. It was a culmination of stuff that has been going on for months.
He knows he shouldn't have slapped her, he deeply regrets it but it was a bit of a knee jerk reaction. She is very abusive and aggressive. And has a history with the police.
Anyway things have been VERY strained with my DP and his daughters. He's apologised to his elder daughter and has made some progress with DSD 13 (nearly 14 now) but DSD 15 is very stubborn,
Anyway his ex phoned him yesterday and said that someone had phoned Social services about the girls. It appears his 13 year old DD had been overheard by a teacher that her "dad had beat up her sister" on holiday. This was then followed through by SS via school.
They have a meeting with ex-wife on Monday morning to discuss this. DP hasn't been invited and he is away with work for the week anyway.
Ex-wife has sat both girls down and explained the seriousness of this and what they have done by 'shouting if from the rooftops' as it were and being dramatic. He slapped her, he didn't 'beat her up'.
Strangely his daughter has sent him some lovely texts today (it's his birthday) with loads of kisses!! Telling him she loves and misses him?
I agree ellie I hope it makes them all realise (DP too) that things have to change!
Just hoping ex-wife is honest and discusses the problems she has been having with them both also. She needs support. She is really struggling and I feel so sorry for her. They refuse to come here still, I hope this changes, she needs some space and time without them.
Dreading it when/if they ever decide to come back. But will cross that bridge if it ever happens...
I have read your other posts and feel that this could actually be a good thing. Something needed to happen as the situation couldn't go on as it was. Hopefully the seriousness of the situation might make the girls grow up and stop acting in such a horrendous way. Hopefully the girls mum gets much needed help and your partner can get back some sort of civilised relationship with his daughters. Obviously that'll make life easier for both of you so fingers crossed it all works out in the end. Good luck.