I have recently started dating a lovely new man after separating from my ex-husband almost a year ago. DP is also separated, but has an 8yo DS whom I have not met, although he has spoken of him a lot.
Just to be clear, neither of us broke up the other's marriage. We met after we had both separated from our respective spouses.
I am 36 and have no kids of my own. I'm not sure I even want to have any. Not because I don't like children. I work as a Nanny and love kids. I have no doubt that should the relationship become more serious, I would have no problem loving and step-parenting his son at all.
My issue is with his ex-wife. She is incredibly controlling, manipulative and just downright nasty. She uses her son as a means to hurt DP with little thought or care for how her actions and words will be affecting her own son both short and long term. DP feels he has no choice but to comply with her demands and whims for fear that she will prevent him from seeing his boy, whom he loves dearly.
So far, her behaviour has screwed up our plans and upset DP when we have been together several times, spoiling our time together. She doesn't know about me, so it's not intentionally timed, she is just like this with him constantly.
I like this man very much. He and I are on the same wavelength. He is everything my husband was not and although it's early days, I think we could be really good together and make one another very happy.
I know from reading these boards that there are plenty of other women in my position. Does it ever end happily ever after? Would you, if you could go back to the start of your relationship with DP, choose not to date a man with a pain-in-the-arse of an ex-wife and save yourself the heartache or was it all worth it in the end?
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BestestBrownies · 04/10/2013 13:21
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