Completely fucking pointless thread about step-parenting.

(36 Posts)
Fenton Sun 22-Sep-13 20:36:02

I had tried to hide the SP board.

SP spilled over into other topics in the last few days.

My imaginary spreadsheet has just imploded.

The End.

brdgrl Sun 22-Sep-13 21:39:57

which topics, dare i ask?

ChinaCupsandSaucers Sun 22-Sep-13 21:56:16

I'm sorry fenton, have stepparents been contaminating the hallowed halls of AIBU, chat, and relationships?
It's just not on, behaving as if Stepparenting is socially acceptable, is it? and that Stepmums are <whispers> real people, despite the broomsticks and pointy hats.

Come on ladies - we must try harder not to upset users of the other boards by pretending we can legitimately post there as well!

LtEveDallas Sun 22-Sep-13 22:02:24

I'm with you Fenton. There have been some complete and utter arsehole comments about Stepparenting over the last couple of weeks. I've PMd a few poor souls and suggested they would be better off on the SP board because at least they'd get some sensible advice rather than the "knew what you were getting in to" "it's the child I feel sorry for" and the classic "Were you the OW?"

Although tonight I've seen a poster be told shes "just the woman her DH happens to fancy" actually on SP. So the shit remains there too.

Petal02 Sun 22-Sep-13 22:03:31

Hello Fenton - long time no speak!

Petal02 Sun 22-Sep-13 22:04:21

And Dallas!! Nice to see you too!

LtEveDallas Sun 22-Sep-13 22:13:46

You too Petal. I've been keeping away from SPing for a while. It's blown up again with DSD (money, again) and my last rant earned me lots of "how horrible you are" posts and deletions!

Fenton Sun 22-Sep-13 22:44:57

Hello All, good to see you - I took a summer hols break and have c

I'm a bit worried that China has misunderstood my post!

China, I'm

Fenton Sun 22-Sep-13 22:52:01

Try again...

I took a break and came back to a Chat thread riddled with sp cliches !

China, I am not complaining about sp's being on other boards, far from it - just sickened again by the immediate bias and assumptions of wrong doing by step parents by ignorant twats on this site - same old shitty comments.

Sorry if it wasn't clear, it must have been unpleasant to think someone would come here and complain about steps spilling out onto other boards!

grin

Fenton Sun 22-Sep-13 22:54:50

Oh god what a mix up!

I must be clearer!

Little bit scared of china now ...

Fenton Sun 22-Sep-13 23:00:40

Oh and yes LtEve - that one is priceless isn't she?

I might have to upgrade her to a level 10 for that one wink

ChinaCupsandSaucers Sun 22-Sep-13 23:03:11

No, it's me that's not been clear - I hope that we're old friends fenton (I'm NADM) wink

What I meant was that the cliche brigade have got their knickers in a twist about stepparents roaming MN willynilly and you're all upset because of their bigoted attitude. That just can't happen, we should know our place wink

DizzySometimes Sun 22-Sep-13 23:03:14

Hey there Fenton. Yep, I know what you mean. I go in phases of using this forum and not using it. Whilst I find the SP forum tends to be fairly good, there are still the old cliches trotted out, which can get a bit tedious. I hear you on the "immediate bias and assumptions" made, as I seem to have fallen foul of that the last couple of days; my favourite attempted putdown is "Do you have DCs?" (because, obviously, if you don't, then YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT CHILDREN!). Heaven forbid that we would want a say in how our own family operates or live our own lives! I would also like to say that the women on this board are amazing - if only other posters on this site would think about walking a mile in someone else's shoes, instead of assuming all stepmums are the OW and that their first purpose is to try and stop the their partner seeing their children.

Fenton Sun 22-Sep-13 23:07:59

That's a relief me old China !

Sorry I haven't kept up with nc-ing...

phew

Good to see you also.

Emilyeggs Mon 23-Sep-13 07:24:11

Lovely ladies who have helped me so much, petal china and many more. Don't let them bother you. There's one that always reads step parenting threads with "distain". Whenever she posts I just read what she has written, laugh then promptly ignore grin if it bothers her so much, why read them?

Emilyeggs Mon 23-Sep-13 08:14:23

Just stumbled across the "happen to be someone for DH's to fancy" OMFG!!! How utterly offensive! I was going to type a reply but I'm to cross angryangry

ChinaCupsandSaucers Mon 23-Sep-13 08:23:43

There's one that always reads step parenting threads with "distain".

I have to challenge you on that one emily - based on recent replies, it's clear that actually reading the OP before posting isn't part of some posters MO wink

Emilyeggs Mon 23-Sep-13 08:35:28

grin X

Emilyeggs Mon 23-Sep-13 08:39:25

I have been pulled up in the past, but it's been put in a constructive way and from people with SP experience, those are the people I listen to

daisychain01 Mon 23-Sep-13 09:19:34

My first foray in posting for advice on the SP board, rather than reading and providing my comments to other people's posts (my post was a question about my late husband's children) took no time at all before that old chestnut was trotted out "were you the OW?"

It can feel like "lambs to the slaughter" sometimes sad

catsmother Mon 23-Sep-13 09:35:35

I read a"step" post this weekend - don't think it was on the Step board (and can't remember where it was now) where one particular poster was insistent that the OP must be the OW and must have done this that and the other, without any evidence to support this claim. And then, was outrageously rude when another poster remonstrated with their stereotypical WSM scenario. The OP came back later to refute this claim - though why the bloody hell should she have done ? - and so far as I remember, there was no apology, nothing from the cow who'd slagged her off earlier.

I've just seen the "someone DP happened to fancy" thread too - complete with further accusations of "whining" and "bitterness" and sweeping statements such as "stepparents stamping their feet" IIRC. (I at least always try to allow for the fact that you find good and bad in all groups of people - e.g. by referring to some exes, some men and so on). Astonishing.

Why do some people have to be so bloody nasty ? Most of us can take an alternative view, so long as it's expressed logically and politely. I thought I must have missed the bit where the OPs in each of the threads above said they enticed their stepkids into their lair with a gingerbread house and then boiled them in a big cauldron ..........

And yes Emily I was going to reply to that thread too but unfortunately I haven't got the time today to write everything I'd like to say and I suspect it would fall on bigoted deaf ears anyway.

Kaluki Mon 23-Sep-13 10:34:06

Hi Fenton!
Good to 'see' you again, and China (I had a feeling you were NADM)
I think the "just someone their dad happens to fancy" line is a classic. Bloody cheek grin

ChinaCupsandSaucers Mon 23-Sep-13 10:41:32

I thought I must have missed the bit where the OPs in each of the threads above said they enticed their stepkids into their lair with a gingerbread house and then boiled them in a big cauldron ..........

But it's in the MN talk guidelines, isn't it?

All posters who admit to being SM's must be repsonded to as if they are man- and child-stealing whores who are simutaneously abusing their DSC in cruel and unusual ways while at the same time plotting to take Mums place in the DC's life and hearts.

Fenton Mon 23-Sep-13 10:45:51

I have never read that China - I really must click on the link and actually read it next time MNHQ ahems and posts it for us.

Petal02 Mon 23-Sep-13 11:02:15

I'm still reeling from recent MN accusations of emotional abuse, due to:

(a) taking DSS abroad for a spring holiday rather than a summer holiday
(b) buying him a car

Only a step mother could be vilified for those "crimes" .......

Perhaps we should have taken him to Blackpool and bought him a bus pass ??

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