My first "real" post so please be gentle
I have been with DP for just over 3 years, I have DS (13) and twin DDs (9). I relocated to be with him as my children rarely see their father.
DP has DD (10) and DS (7). At first the children all got on really well and we have worked hard at doing things together but also spending out own time with our children (he has them 50/50, mine are with me all the time).
Lately things have not been going so well, partly because the girls have different personalities. Things have become particularly difficult over the past two months or so as DSD (who is with us most weekends) has taken to going off to her room with other friends from the village (school friends of DTD) and barring entry to DTD, or arranging sleepovers with these girls or movie nights to which my daughters are pointedly not invited. Now, fair enough, the children are old enough to choose their own friends but more than once I have heard these other girls suggesting DTD are invited to play/watch movie/listen to music with them all (as before) only to hear DSD whisper things like "no, let it jus be us" etc. one of these girls mothers recently commented that her DD preferred coming round when DSD is not here as otherwise she gets pulled away from DTD and doesn't know how to handle it.
Both DTD are upset by this and feel like their friends are being taken away. I have raised this a couple of times with DP and although initially sympathetic he now says it is normal behaviour for his DD who is trying to stake some sort of claim when in this house. Whilst there may be some truth in this I have observed enough of tween girl behaviour to think she understands the implications of her actions and I am exhausted from the constant mopping of tears every weekend. Any advice gratefully received!
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itinerant · 05/08/2013 21:12
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