Contrary to how this may sound, I actually do love and get on with DP's 16 yr old DD. it's not been easy in the past but we are in a really good place now.
I do have a few issues that I blame HIM for allowing but need suggestions on how to get through to him.
His DD completely refuses to help out with anything, from making dinner to helping unload the car of shopping.
She is supposed to work 2hrs a week in her Dad's office but rarely turns up. She is on holiday from school ATM but flat out refuses to work for him at all, which means I have to give up my self employed hrs to help him out. (Despite the fact she has just had a very expensive holiday and received a very expensive birthday present.)
The last straw today, I saw she had scratched her name into the office desk and I'm fuming. Yes, it's old and knackered but that's not the point. He's intending on saying nothing about it. He never confronts her on anything. She is 16, defacing office property is not acceptable.
Tonight he went back to work (instead of last night) as she wanted to come round. Nothing wrong with that at all but I told him yesterday that if he left me tonight to go in to work I'd be mightily pissed off as I'm away till next week from tomorrow.
Not only does he see time with me as less valuable but he won't stop this whole taking the piss attitude of his DD. in all other ways he's a great guy but this nonstop working in the evening time if his DD isn't around whilst rewarding rather bratty behaviour is really annoying me.
Not going to LTB and as I say, I really do care about his DD, but I am very concerned about her behaviour, he's setting her up to fail in life IMO. I'm careful to pick my battles but he needs a wake up call. The one thing he hates most about his DDs mother is her entitled behaviour.
Any tips, please?
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fackinell · 01/08/2013 02:17
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